Your BFF is getting hitched and he’s asked you to be his best man. Congrats – that means not only are you one of his closest friends, but he thinks you’re reliable too. What a lovely ego boost! But while this coveted position might come with glory, it’s endowed with big responsibilities too and it’s only natural that you want to do the best job for your bud. So, with that in mind, here are our top tips for being the best best man Cornwall has ever seen…
- Organise an epic stag do
Let’s be honest – this is the part you’re looking forward too. But before you go and book a week in Las Vegas, take a moment to consider the groom. The stag do should celebrate him and be tailored towards his interests. So, if his idea of a good time is the latest Stephen King novel and a cup of Earl Grey, you might want to rethink your Vegas plans. Because while stag dos used to follow a typical – and often for the groom, embarrassing – series of events, there are all sorts of options available these days. Think outside the box and come up with something personal to your pal. (You can always go to Vegas when it’s your turn).
- Check-in with him
Many best men think that once they’ve organised the stag do, jobs a good’n until the big day. But if you want top marks, you’ll want to be a bit more involved in the lead-up to. Wedding planning can take its toll on the most laidback of people and many men don’t realise quite how tough it can be organising budgets and dealing with wedding politics. So make sure you check-in with him from time to time and maybe take him out for a drink to vent when needed.
- Be enthusiastic
We’ll level with you: you probably couldn’t care less about the save-the-date calligraphy. But if you want some brownie points, you’re going to need to be enthusiastic. So, roll up your sleeves and ask what you can do to help. Or better yet – make solid suggestions. Perhaps you could offer to arrange the suit fitting and collection. And if you need any help in that department, look no further. We love helping grooms and their gang find the perfect suit for their occasion. To book an appointment in our Regency Room or find out more, give us a call on 01872 859778.
- Be calm on the day
Even the coolest cucumber is bound to be a little bit nervy on the morning of their wedding. So don’t just swing up ten minutes before it’s time to say “I do”. Get there early and make sure your pal is feeling as settled and ready as he can. There might be last-minute tasks to help out with or perhaps you’ll just provide some moral support. Whatever you do: make sure he gets to the venue on time.
- Don’t forget the ring
It goes without saying, but always bears repeating: don’t forget the ring!
- Be the first line of defence
The bride and groom have enough on their plate without worrying about late caterers or loose buttons. Make yourself – and the rest of the bridal party – the first line of defence when it comes to any wedding hiccups. By taking on this role you’ll free up the groom to focus on what really matters. To do this job properly, you’ll need a list of and contact details for the vendors. You might also want to stock up on a few handy items like safety pins, a stain removal pen and pain killers.
- Write a winning speech
This is a tough one, but you’ll need to knock it out of the park if you want top marks as best man. You’re aiming for side-splittingly funny, emotionally resonate and just a slight hint of embarrassment for the groom. Yes, it’s a big ask. So, get started early and keep on practising. And while it might be tempting to just chat about you and your best friend’s hilarious escapades, make sure you thank everyone that needs to be thanked and throw in a few words for the bride too.
- Go out with a bang
There are a few ways you can continue to ace the best man role even once the speech is done. If the bride and groom are heading off that night, you can sneak out and decorate the getaway car. In the days that follow you could take responsibility for returning the suits or getting them dry cleaned. You might also consider offering to drive the couple to the airport for their honeymoon, you legend you.